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Just Breath – He’s coming!

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We’ve all heard the term “waiting to exhale.” That’s when a woman figuratively holds her breath until the right guy comes along. Problem is, holding your breath creates two problems: first you suffocate. Then you die.
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Big Girls Thrown a Curve Ball

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In what seemed like a step in the right direction, Italian Vogue created Vogue Curvy, a section on its website dedicated to fuller figures.
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Be Kind

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A few posts ago I issued the challenge for people to speak out about the abuse they’ve suffered, to be the one who isn’t afraid to talk about it to help others to talk about it and find healing.
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Through Thick & Thin

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The 2012 Summer Olympics are over but I’m sure we have a few more weeks of the media focusing on athletes being stripped of their medals, allegations of cheating and trumped-up controversies.
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Doubts – Don’t Doubt Them

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While chatting with some girlfriends, some young, some grandmothers, it was interesting to hear that all who had been through a divorce or bad relationship admit they had their doubts about the man from the start but didn’t heed them.
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Keeping Up Appearances

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Warning: this post deals with sexual abuse and contains information which some may find disturbing or triggering, so please proceed with caution. My goal is to address an issue stemming from abuse, not to harm anyone emotionally.
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The Good Side of Betrayal

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Ain’t love grand? When you find a special someone who becomes your Significant Other, you’re filled with life and hope and joy. Love is forever, or so all the love songs claim, and with Mr. Right you’ll live happily ever after.
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Plus Size Power

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I know I just blogged about the size of models, but plus size models are making news and I just gotta shout about it.
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Relationship Traffic Signs

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Why do we do it? We make our lists of The Perfect Man with its double column of Must Haves and Have Nots and determine that we will never again fall for, date or marry someone who doesn’t fit the bill.
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Fed UP With Skinny

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I am fed up (interesting term) with Skinny being held up as the ultimate goal of women. 
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Speak UP!

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A friend gets a call from a guy she emailed, telling him how she felt about him but wasn’t certain how he felt about her. She said she understood if he was hesitant to pursue a relationship, but that she really did like him.
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Valentines Day Blues

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Valentine’s Day has come and gone.  If there’s one holiday which is totally superfluous and yet means so much, this is it.  The ironic thing is, it means even more when you’re single and don’t have a sweetheart.
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A Big Form of Bigotry

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Throughout the world and throughout time, there have been people who rose up and said “Enough” to discrimination.  Discrimination based on gender, race, creed, lifestyle, mental capacity, physical ability, and size unfortunately and unbelievably still exists.  Today, I am writing to add my voice to those who say, “Enough.” 
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Cinderella Complex

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Ever notice how so many fairy tales are about women being rescued by men and they live happily ever after?  Life gets better after she meets the prince.  It’s a plot which works well.  Or is it more than just a great storyline?  Is there something in the collective female psyche which drives us to wish upon a star for a knight in shining armor?  And why do we wish for that?
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How to attract a man!

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What do men look for in a woman?  It doesn’t matter if she’s one hundred pounds overweight or drop-dead gorgeous, sometimes women find their dating life to be non-existent.  Like myself, you’ve probably read articles about how to attract a man and what puts men off, but what is off-putting is when you do all the things which are recommended to attract a guy and avoiding the things which repel them, but still find yourself alone on a Friday night.
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The Religion of Perfection

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I have been taking an honest look at why I want to lose weight.  I was made to feel like I was not good enough as a fat woman; I fell below the mark.  My ex-husband referred to me as a “big fat cow sitting on the couch eating chocolate” to his co-workers and wouldn’t touch me sexually or affectionately for months at a time (it’s a miracle I have two beautiful children).  My parents took me to a “fat” doctor when I was nine because they were concerned about my weight even then.

“Fat” in this world is just plain wrong.  Therefore, as a fat person, I am less than perfect.  And so I want to lose weight to become perfect.
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Just As I Am Challenge

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What don’t you like about yourself?  Most women don’t like their weight or their figure shape.  Or bust size, hip size, nose shape, big ears wrinkles, jowls, lips, muffin-tops, ankles: the list goes on and on. 
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Happy Holidays!

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Happy Holidays—or are they?  According to the media, they aren’t—that is, until you buy this item or cook that food.  I just spent the holiday at my grandmother’s house, where the television was on almost the entire day. 
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Body Perception

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Studies have been conducted on body weight perception which have come up with the same conclusion: body weight perception is not always in agreement with actual weight.  Really?  Maybe if more research was done on why scientists and academics conduct studies where the results are obvious, then maybe there would be more advances in the sciences.
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The Best Laid Schemes

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“The best laid schemes of mice and men/Go often askew,” wrote the famous poet Robert Burns.

Life is like that.  One minute we experience the greatest happiness; the next we plummet into despair.  You’re on the mountaintop, the sun is shining, and everything finally seems to be coming together; then we see that beyond the summit, the mountain goes down, the clouds hide the sun, and everything unravels.
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