Speak UP!
A friend gets a call from a guy she emailed, telling him how she felt about him but wasn’t certain how he felt about her. She said she understood if he was hesitant to pursue a relationship, but that she really did like him.
It was not the sort of message you put off answering, but he waited three weeks to reply. Three weeks? His response: “I’m flattered, but . . .” My friend politely explained that she figured as much, and after a laugh and a “Talk to you later,” they hung up and haven’t spoken since.
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Valentines Day Blues
Valentine’s Day has come and gone. If there’s one holiday which is totally superfluous and yet means so much, this is it. The ironic thing is, it means even more when you’re single and don’t have a sweetheart.
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The Lighter Side of Large
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A Big Form of Bigotry
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Throughout the world and throughout time, there have been people who rose up and said “Enough” to discrimination. Discrimination based on gender, race, creed, lifestyle, mental capacity, physical ability, and size unfortunately and unbelievably still exists. Today, I am writing to add my voice to those who say, “Enough.”
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Cinderella Complex
Ever notice how so many fairy tales are about women being rescued by men and they live happily ever after? Life gets better after she meets the prince. It’s a plot which works well. Or is it more than just a great storyline? Is there something in the collective female psyche which drives us to wish upon a star for a knight in shining armor? And why do we wish for that?
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How to attract a man!
What do men look for in a woman? It doesn’t matter if she’s one hundred pounds overweight or drop-dead gorgeous, sometimes women find their dating life to be non-existent. Like myself, you’ve probably read articles about how to attract a man and what puts men off, but what is off-putting is when you do all the things which are recommended to attract a guy and avoiding the things which repel them, but still find yourself alone on a Friday night.
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The Religion of Perfection
I have been taking an honest look at why I want to lose weight. I was made to feel like I was not good enough as a fat woman; I fell below the mark. My ex-husband referred to me as a “big fat cow sitting on the couch eating chocolate” to his co-workers and wouldn’t touch me sexually or affectionately for months at a time (it’s a miracle I have two beautiful children). My parents took me to a “fat” doctor when I was nine because they were concerned about my weight even then.
“Fat” in this world is just plain wrong. Therefore, as a fat person, I am less than perfect. And so I want to lose weight to become perfect.
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Just As I Am Challenge
What don’t you like about yourself? Most women don’t like their weight or their figure shape. Or bust size, hip size, nose shape, big ears wrinkles, jowls, lips, muffin-tops, ankles: the list goes on and on.
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Happy Holidays!
Happy Holidays—or are they? According to the media, they aren’t—that is, until you buy this item or cook that food. I just spent the holiday at my grandmother’s house, where the television was on almost the entire day.
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Body Perception
Studies have been conducted on body weight perception which have come up with the same conclusion: body weight perception is not always in agreement with actual weight. Really? Maybe if more research was done on why scientists and academics conduct studies where the results are obvious, then maybe there would be more advances in the sciences.
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The Best Laid Schemes
“The best laid schemes of mice and men/Go often askew,” wrote the famous poet Robert Burns.
Life is like that. One minute we experience the greatest happiness; the next we plummet into despair. You’re on the mountaintop, the sun is shining, and everything finally seems to be coming together; then we see that beyond the summit, the mountain goes down, the clouds hide the sun, and everything unravels.
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Get Me Some Respect
R-E-S-P-E-C-T: soul queen Aretha Franklin sang it best. Losing weight has a lot to do with respect. Do you respect people because they are thinner, while showing less respect for those with extra poundage? Are you shown less respect when heavier and more respect as you lose weight? There is something to be said for hard work, and losing weight and keeping it off is hard work.
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The Art of Weightlessness
Ever notice that happy, giving, positive people are, well, happy, giving, and positive (yes, I know, sometimes you want to slap them, but that’s not my point)? They focus on the present or on helping others. The glass is always half full.
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When the bell tolls
Why does it take a tragedy or sudden shock to wake us up from complacency and make us realize what is really important? Some of us go through life thinking everything’s okay and fate will work out all the kinks. Others live in denial or are just trying to survive or allow themselves to be controlled by anger or resentment or mistakes.
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Dying to Live
Lots of people have had near-death experiences. Some claim their lives flashed before their eyes. Others became focused on the things which truly mattered to them. I had a near-death experience in the hospital and yes, I thought about my children and the man I care for at The End. But it was what I thought about on the other side of the fatal moment which changed my life.
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Rewinding Life
Don’t you wish you had a rewind button? How many times have we said, done or assumed something which was in error and it made a situation worse? Imagine, having learned a lesson the hard way, you could instantly rewind the scenario and repeat it but achieve a more positive outcome?
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Granny Panties and Regret
Fat comes with unwelcome side effects such as diabetes, high cholesterol, heart disease, back and knee pain, and gall stones. But the weight of regret is an even greater burden to bear, and results in guilty feelings, annoyance, shame, sadness, and wishing—wishing you had made better choices in the past.
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Old Habits Die Hard
Old habits die hard—something you’ll discover when it comes to dieting. That’s why it’s called “die”ting. You must kill those old thought patterns which got you into size XXXXL in the first place.
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The Road From Here
Is there any feeling quite as thrilling as shopping for clothes and finding you have to go down a size? It’s like winning a trophy in a competition, proof that your dieting is paying off. It encourages us to work harder. We aren’t at the beginning of the diet journey any longer. We’re already down the road.
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